外国知乎(quora)上有这样一个问答:What are the most basic life lessons?
- Never seek happiness from other people. You will never be happy in life if you do, knowing the fact that you are your own master and you hold your own happiness.(永远不要向别人寻求幸福。如果你这样做,你将永远不会幸福,因为你知道你是自己的主人,你拥有自己的幸福)
- Never depend into people for anything, you will always be let down.(永远不要依赖人做任何事情,你总会失望的)
- Never hold your expectations high for anything, just be yourself and live for the moment being constantly who you are, because when we expect the most we always get let down.(永远不要对任何事情抱有很高的期望,做你自己,活在当下,永远做你自己,因为当我们期望最高的时候,我们总是会失望。)
- Never escape problems always try to face them and solve them, because if you do the problems get bigger and they will drain you out of your energy.(永远不要逃避问题,总是试着去面对它们并解决它们,因为如果你这样做,问题就会变得更大,它们会耗尽你的精力。)
- Never allow people to dictate how you feel about yourself or to dictate your happiness in general.(永远不要让别人决定你对自己的感觉或总体上决定你的幸福)
- Never get affected by peoples thoughts, what they think of you, how they view you and what they are saying, what you think of yourself that’s what matters and how you view yourself.(永远不要被人们的想法、他们对你的看法、他们如何看待你和他们在说什么、你对自己的看法以及你如何看待自己的看法所影响。)
- Always push yourself out of your comfort zone or at least try on daily basis to achieve success in life.(始终将自己推出舒适区,或者至少每天尝试以取得成功)
- Always fight for what you believe in and chase your dreams’’If your dreams don’t scare you they aren’t big enough’’.(永远为你的信念而奋斗,追逐你的梦想''如果你的梦想没有吓到你,它们还不够大'')
- Always fight for what you believe in even if it means to stand against the people , remember you were born to stand out not to fit in, every individual is unique on it’s own, so do not afraid to stand out from the people.(永远为你的信仰而战,即使这意味着与人民对抗,记住你生来就是为了脱颖而出而不是融入,每个人都是独一无二的,所以不要害怕从人民中脱颖而出)
- Learn to enjoy your own company only then you are going to be happy. Meaning life your life to the fullest and be proud with what you possess and who you are, this will make you attract the whole people around.(学会享受自己的陪伴,只有这样你才会快乐。充实自己的生活,为自己所拥有的和自己的身份感到自豪,这将使您吸引周围的所有人。)
- Learn to love yourself, respect yourself, appreciate yourself, value yourself and take a good care of yourself, so you can reflect back with those things to the people.(学会爱自己、尊重自己、欣赏自己、珍惜自己、照顾好自己,这样才能把这些东西回馈给人们。)
- Never trust too early, never allow anyone to surpass your boundaries if they do learn to walk away.(永远不要太早相信,永远不要让任何人超越你的界限,如果他们学会走开)
- Never waste your time and energy to negative-toxic people there will always be someone on the line that is going to judge you so live for yourself and distance yourself from those individuals they will leave you drained out of energy and time, surround yourself with the positive, with the people that share your mindset, your world, your emotions and ideas.(永远不要把你的时间和精力浪费在消极的人身上,总会有人在网上评判你,所以为自己而活,远离那些人,他们会让你耗尽精力和时间,让自己被周围的人包围积极的,与分享你的心态、你的世界、你的情感和想法的人在一起)
- You don’t need to prove, you need to be. Never try proving yourself to anyone knowing the fact that you do not owe anything to anyone especially to the people that hold no value in you, the moment you feel that you need to prove your worth to someone is the moment that you should utterly walk away without wasting time and energy.(你不需要证明,你需要证明。永远不要试图向任何人证明自己知道你不欠任何人任何东西,尤其是对那些对你毫无价值的人,当你觉得你需要向某人证明你的价值时,你应该完全走开不浪费时间和精力。)
- Do not go on wasting your time and energy in life, you will need them later on, knowing the fact that every movement requires time and energy.(不要继续在生活中浪费你的时间和精力,你以后会需要它们,因为每个动作都需要时间和精力。)
- Know that on your journey to a dream or your path you are going to lose lots of people, be ready for it, time will reveal peoples faces and you are going to be surprised with how much you have lost in the process especially if you are successful, do not allow that to take you out of your path or your dream, because if you are losing people that shows that you stood up for what you believed and you are still following that path and chasing that dream, the people that will fade know that they were never in there to begin with, only the true people that really loved you will stand on your side on your darkest and sweetest days those are the people that really care about you, the rest who fade are just history, even the people that you thought they were in there or you trusted them so much, that’s why time reveals everything.(知道在你的梦想之旅或你的道路上你会失去很多人,做好准备,时间会揭示人们的面孔,你会惊讶于你在这个过程中失去了多少,尤其是如果你是成功,不要让它带你离开你的道路或你的梦想,因为如果你正在失去那些表明你坚持你所相信的东西并且你仍然沿着这条道路追逐那个梦想的人,那些人将会消失要知道他们从一开始就不在那里,只有真正爱过你的人会在你最黑暗和最甜蜜的日子里站在你这边,那些才是真正关心你的人,剩下的逝去的只是历史,甚至那些你认为他们在那里或者你非常信任他们的人,这就是为什么时间会揭示一切。)
- Do not go around Empathizing with every individual, be smart with your Empathy, share your Empathy with the right people, they will use that against you and hurt you badly, that’s the hard truth that i learned late in life.(不要与每个人共情,对你的同理心保持聪明,与合适的人分享你的同理心,他们会用它来对付你并严重伤害你,这是我晚年学到的艰难事实)
- Be positive only then you are going to live a happy life, always wake up even if you are feeling bad, show up and start your day with a smile on your face, no matter what happens, you are responsible for your happiness do not allow people to dictate your moods.(只有积极向上,你才能过上幸福的生活,即使心情不好也总是醒来,面带微笑地出现并开始新的一天,无论发生什么,你都要为自己的幸福负责,不允许人们决定你的心情。)
- Grow everyday from life experiences as a human being, view every negative experience as a growing lesson, those experiences happen for a reason to grow your mind and to teach you a lesson, do not afraid them, be grateful that they happened because you are losing nothing on the process while you are earning everything, most importantly you are growing unlimited on daily basis and learning self control.(从作为一个人的生活经历中成长每一天,将每一次负面经历视为一次成长的教训,这些经历的发生是为了让您的思想成长并教给您一个教训,不要害怕它们,感谢它们的发生是因为您正在失败在您赚取一切的过程中没有任何内容,最重要的是您每天都在无限增长并学习自我控制。)
- When people provoke you it’s a positive thing, do not react, this is a test that life has thrown to you with this test you are basically going to know how mentally strong you are and how much in control you are with yourself, when those experiences happen over and over again you get stronger and more in control of yourself, the people that provoke you are wasting their time while you are earning lots on the process.(当人们激怒你时,这是一件积极的事情,不要做出反应,这是生活对你的考验,通过这个考验,你基本上会知道你的精神有多强大,你对自己有多大的控制力,当那些经历一次又一次地发生,你变得更强大,更能控制自己,激怒你的人在浪费时间,而你在这个过程中赚了很多。)
- Never allow your past to dictate your present or future. Live for the moment and make the best out of it.(永远不要让你的过去支配你的现在或未来。活在当下,并充分利用它)
- Never view people as all the same simply Black and White, everyone is different and everyone should be treated differently according to their character, if someone has hurt you in the past that does not mean that you should hurt another human being believing that everyone else will be bad.(永远不要简单地把人看成是黑人和白人,每个人都是不同的,每个人都应该根据他们的性格得到不同的对待,如果过去有人伤害过你,这并不意味着你应该伤害另一个人,因为相信其他人都会坏。)
- Never judge another individual. Never try to bring another individual down rather cheer them up.(永远不要评判另一个人。永远不要试图让另一个人失望,而要让他们振作起来。)
- Never take life too seriously, you will be left drained, joke around and play around.(永远不要把生活看得太认真,你会筋疲力尽,开玩笑和玩耍。)
- Never go around trying to fix people especially if you are on an active relationship so they can love you, this is pure Co-Dependency and you are going to end up hurt.(永远不要试图修复人们,尤其是如果您处于积极的关系中以便他们可以爱您,这是纯粹的共同依赖,您最终会受到伤害)
- Know the fact that love will find you whenever you are already happy, because you are going to reflect to the people more attractive if you are simply being yourself, having a blast and being all confident on your own skin with your own company and caring less.(知道爱会在你已经快乐的时候找到你的事实,因为如果你只是做你自己,玩得开心,对自己的皮肤充满信心,有自己的陪伴,更少关心,你就会向人们反映更有吸引力.)
- Never beg, plead or cling for the people to stay with you especially in relationships, the door is open if it is meant to happen it will happen, if not the door is open they can leave, the right people in the right moment will enter your life and never leave, while the wrong people will leave.(永远不要乞求、恳求或坚持让人们和你在一起,尤其是在人际关系中,门是敞开的,如果它注定要发生,它就会发生,如果门没有打开,他们可以离开,合适的人会在合适的时间进入你的一生永远不会离开,而错的人就会离开)
- Never go around searching for Love desperately this will make you less attractive, because you are desperate and you are going to appear desperate.(永远不要绝望地四处寻找爱,这会降低你的吸引力,因为你很绝望,你会显得很绝望。)
- Life will force you to walk away from the people that you thought they were the right people for you, it will take you serious guts to walk away, it’s easier to stay then to walk especially from those types of individuals that you really love and care or you thought they were different while they were not, know the fact that you can’t really go against your destiny neither change it, so eventually you will have to learn the hard truth of walking away sometimes which will be the hardest thing for you.(生活会迫使你离开那些你认为他们是适合你的人,你需要很大的勇气才能离开,留下来比较容易,尤其是那些你真正爱和关心的人,或者你认为他们是不同的,而他们不是,要知道,你不能真正违背你的命运,也不能改变它,所以最终你将不得不学会离开的硬道理,有时这将是你最困难的事情。)
- Know one thing in life’’God will give you the people that you need and deserve, not the ones that you want’’.(在生活中知道一件事“上帝会给予你需要和值得的人,而不是你想要的人”。)